Last Call // Brutal Honesty

After reading Last Call, one will realize how it is time for males and females to start being completely honest with each other about their sexual intentions and recently executed exploits.  Said differently, it looks like the window of opportunity to cheat and get away with it might be shutting for good.  Welcome to brutal honesty:

brutal honesty  very harsh or rigorous sincerity; the quality of being true to life, especially with one’s own sexuality; a best policy if one wants to live a worthwhile life

It is my belief that regardless of how long male and female biased dishonesty practices have been in place, there is nothing brutal honesty will not be able to defeat practically overnight.  As someone who has practiced brutal honesty before, I can vouch that it is not only easier, but more rewarding then holding sex act encounter secret after sex act encounter secret.

In addition to scars left from their upbringing, previous partnerships or other events from their past, people have many excuses for pursuing sex with a third party.  The primary reason usually has something to do with their current partner, or their partnership in a general sense, whether it is they are upset with their partner, bored, not as attracted to them as they used to be, or that they have simply been together for so long.  There are just as many excuses for why they then lie about it.

An incredibly important assumption held throughout the discussions on cheating events in Last Call is that neither partner is being unreasonable within the partnership roles, let alone jerky or bitchy.  When addressing how to manage cheat events, Last Call works from the stance that neither partner is overly upset or bored, and that both still readily admire their partner’s look.  It is also assumed the self-esteem of both partners is solid, and that they hold enough trust to confide in one another about non-dating personal matters, whether it is work, family, or friend-related.

Further, each partner maintains a consistent respect for the other’s values, needs, wants and feelings while sharing company time.  In fact, whatever disagreements do surface, they are tackled head on as soon as humanly possible, with both sides drawing either a mutually satisfying conclusion or one partner recognizing that they were wrong and taking the adage of walking in each other’s shoes as a guiding principle, not an exception.

Once a person finds themselves in a cheating situation, the intention of Last Call’s overhaul is to replace all biased dishonesty practices with a brutal honesty policy—brutal honesty with the “partner” they are sharing company time and having sex with—regarding third-parties of either gender and any sexual encounters and activities that transpire when apart.  Not only is this the “Wright” approach in my book, it is also the only one that is 100 percent respectable.

To be explicitly clear, Last Call ultimately focuses on setting easily recognized boundaries for the heterosexual hook-up and dating world.  Not just one boundary, but a series of boundaries built on brutally honest communication and a classification system that all heterosexuals can relate to equally and utilize with integrity.  Individuals can count on these boundaries to stay honest with themselves about their own time spent in public—and to stay honest with the opposite-sex people who choose to share company time with them, and especially those that choose to have sex with them.

From the Author’s Introduction...

The following table provides a side-by-side summary of gender-specific traits observed during the normal course of sex and dating in today’s America.  Most heterosexual males and an increasing number of females are going about their non-cohabiting sex lives under two very distinct and very divergent approaches.

Masculine Males   Effeminate Females
Use of charm, money and power for purposes of seduction Operation Strategy Flaunting, flirting and projecting sex to attract men
Trying to have sex with as many females as possible Goals Subsidization of lifestyle, maximization of financial position
Egotiscally refusing to tie any economics value to females Economics Electing not to pay in male company and earning lifestyle perks along the way
Telling females what they want to hear in order to earn sex acts Sex Exchange Viewing the sex act as something the female gives and the male receives
Covered neck to toe or at least knee in most public venues Body Exposed flesh via revealing attire, enhancement of chest and posterior
Lying to others while identifying but writing off shortcomings Dishonesty Lying to others while failing to personally recognize shortcomings
Taking responsibility for cheat events but claiming it is a male's right Denial Passing off responsibility for cheat events under the no intentions premise
Discretionary income is finite and must remain covered in public Boundaries None

The self-serving motivations that females hold for earning lifestyle perks via subsidization and that males hold for obtaining unlimited sex leave us with no choice but to look at the hook-up and dating world as a business.  It is a business in which everyone involved is competing whether they realize it or not.  Even if a person is currently living with their partner, there is always the chance something better will come along, for either the partner or oneself.

Any business without standardization is bound to become chaotic at some point, and one can see why a complete overhaul is called for.  If Last Call achieves its aims, social inequalities will be realigned when it comes to keeping one’s options open for earning lifestyle perks and obtaining sex.  Even more importantly, the proposed system will kill off the often perverse gender double standards flourishing in today’s America.

Letting go of old ways and viewpoints is the key to success in any overhaul attempt.  Such a movement must be approached in an equitable manner, and in the case of Last Call’s movement, both sexes will need to buy into the majority of redefined values.

It is Last Call’s recommendation that a panel of recognized partnership experts start formally voting on what is fair and not fair when heterosexuals are hooking up and dating people they do not live with.  Given how much time males and females spend in this game, any advantages one sex still holds over the other will and should be equalized in total.  Second, the practice of engaging sexually enticing third parties due to their status or physical appearance, when no longer sexually available, will be reined in.